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Writing for Blissfully Domestic

Monday, August 9th, 2010

I’m now a contributing writer for the website BlissfullyDomestic: A Smart Girl’s Guide to Life.

It’s nice to write for different websites that use different formats. Some sites want short articles, other sites want longer ones and each site has a different “flavor” to them. I’m still the Parenting Teens Feature Writer at Suite101 and the writer for Greenville Parenting Examiner. At BlissfullyDomestic.com, I’m a contributing writer for the “Kids” section although I can also contribute to other areas.

You should check out the Blissfully Domestic site. The site includes articles about fashion, home, entertainment, arts & crafts, writing, relationships and more.

Here are links to some of my articles and some other articles that you may find interesting: (click on the titles to direct your browser to the full articles)

What Plain Paper Offers to Preschoolers that Coloring Books Can’t

When choosing art activities for preschoolers, plain paper has distinct advantages over coloring books  and coloring pages that are printed with an image.


Potty Training Without Using Rewards

Many parents automatically associate potty training with the use of rewards such as candy, stickers or stars. But it’s possible to teach kids to use the potty without any tangible rewards at all.



Photo by Gracey on MorguefileFun Ways to Teach Kids Ages 4-8 about Weights and Measures

Parents can teach kids to notice measurement concepts by trying one or more of the hands-on “around the house” activities listed below.

Breastfeeding Moms Protest: Nurse in Public Outside Radio Station in Greenville, SC

Monday, August 2nd, 2010
Nurse In Event in Greenville. Photo by Kelly Pfeiffer©

Nurse In Event in Greenville. Photo by Kelly Pfeiffer©

Hi parents!

I had a great time visiting with the moms at the “Nurse In” event this morning outside of WORD 106.3 radio station on Garlington Road, in Greenville, SC. I took pictures and they can be viewed in a slide show in the first article listed below.

I’ve written 4 articles about the peaceful protest “Nurse In”. Click on the titles below to redirect your browser to the articles.

The first two articles listed cover the event:

Nurse In event: Greenville, SC moms nurse babies outside radio station in protest (13 photo slide show of this event included)

Elizabeth Hitchcock: Organizer of Nurse In, peaceful protest in Greenville, SC and other US cities

These next two articles were written BEFORE the event happened to announce the event and to explain the situation that warranted the event:

Moms outraged: Negative breastfeeding comments from Russ and Lisa radio show

Nurse In peaceful protest scheduled for August 2 at Greenville area radio station WORD 106.3

Elizabeth Hitchcock nursing. Photo by Kelly Pfeiffer©

Elizabeth Hitchcock nursing. Photo by Kelly Pfeiffer©

Judge Hitchcock sporting a pro-breastfeeding T- shirt. Photo by K Pfeifer©

Judge Hitchcock sporting a pro-breastfeeding T- shirt. Photo by K Pfeifer©

David Walsh Quote on Children Learning Moral Behavior

Friday, July 30th, 2010
Photo by Denise Docherty on StockXChange

Photo by Denise Docherty on StockXChange

“Moral behavior is based on relationships,

not rules.”

The sentence above is my favorite so far in David Walsh’s book. No: Why Kids of all Ages Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It.

The sentence that follows the one above is, “In chapter 5, I will spend more time explaining the secure connection that is the basis for discipline and for an effective No.”

My childhood, my life experiences and my training in social and emotional development all support the view that “moral behavior is based on relationships, not rules.”

As some of you may have heard of read, the brain is hard-wired to CONNECT to others. We humans are social creatures and it is within a social setting and social context that children learn (or do not learn) to distinguish between what is moral and what is immoral.

I am eager to read on, to see what Dr. Walsh will share in chapter 5 about the connection between the parent child relationship and moral development. Stay tuned and I’ll let you know the highlights and what I learn.

If you’d like to read with me, the Greenville County Library has several copies of

No: Why Kids of all Ages Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It by David Walsh, Ph.D.

Saying “No” to Kids – Does It Go Against Current Culture?

Tuesday, July 13th, 2010

The Book, No: Why Kids of all Ages Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It

I’m reading No: Why Kids of all Ages Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It by David Walsh, PhD. I borrowed a copy of the book from the Greenville County Library System. I’m only on page 35, but it so far seems very compatible with my views and with Positive Discipline and with what most people think of “good parenting” in general.

Photo by Yamamoto Ortiz on StockXChange

Published in 2007, the beginning of the book discusses popular culture in the US and the effect it and the media has on kids. Walsh makes the point that media influence is “big” for our kids and for many kids, it creates a sense that one “needs” items such as fancy cell phones, special ring tones, a designer look of fashion, video games, etc.

I have to agree with Walsh that media sure doesn’t help parents. Parents must fight extra hard against today’s media influence. But it’s not impossible to set appropriate limits for kids and parents out there, yes, you may feel like you’re the one parent who’s different from the rest. But you are in charge of your children and don’t let what others decide influence you too much.

If you are one of the parents who needs permission to stick to your guns, there, you just got it.

Kids definitely need to hear no and I’m looking forward to Walsh’s ideas on the “how to say it” part. I’ll let readers know what new ideas I learn.  And while you’re waiting for me to post the ideas or on me to return the book to the library so you can check it out, you can also read Barbara Colloroso’s book, Kids Are Worth It: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline. I’ve read it and I know she has some effective strategies for saying “no” to children. (Actually the Greenville County Library has five copies of Walsh’s No: Why Kids of all Ages Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It, so you can read along with me if you want.)

Read Local Parenting Articles about Greenville, SC

Monday, June 21st, 2010

Photo by Jane M SawyerI am enjoying my new writing assignment as the Greenville Parenting Examiner. I still write for Suite101.com as the feature writer for the Parenting Teens section and I’m a contributing writer at BlissfullyDomestic.com. I’m gradually adding some more work to my freelance writing as I feel able to.

Since I’m not teaching any parenting classes this summer, I’m concentrating more on my freelance writing work. I did take a 5 day trip to a barrier island in South Carolina and I’ve spent a day or two at the lake.

So, it’s back to work now for the rest of the summer. I’ll be posting more articles here at my blog, but for now here’s a sampling of the writing I’ve done this summer. I know you locals will enjoy the information about activities and information for families and kids in Greenville SC.

I’ve written over 40 articles on the Greenville Parenting Examiner Site, but here’s a sampling of a few.

Downtown Greenville/Photo by Kelly Pfeiffer

Free Kids Cooking Class in Greenville

Wet Places for Kids to Cool Off in Greenville

Mice on Main Free Activity on Main Street in Greenville

Saturday Market in Downtown Greenville – Fun for Families

Free Outdoor Movies at Heritage Park in Simpsonville

Click on any of the article titles above to see the full article on Greenville Parenting Examiner.

I’m the new Greenville Parenting Examiner

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010

Photo by John EnnisWow!  Have I had a busy spring!

I taught more parenting classes this past school year than ever before.  Recently I’ve been busy with one of my new writing jobs.

I’m the new “Greenville Parenting Examiner”, writing short articles about local information relevant to parents in the Greenville area. If you have story ideas or events that you feel should be promoted, e-mail me the information and I’ll consider writing an article about it.

I’m still the Parenting Teens feature writing at Suite101.com also. That writing does not have a local focus, but rather is a place for general information that any parent can apply to parenting teenagers. If you have story ideas for that section as well, e-mail me at KellyPfeiffer@THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com with ideas.

I’m also a contributing writer for the Kids Section at BlissfullyDomestic.com. I also contribute to other areas at Blissfully Domestic when I can.

The articles I’ve published so far at Blissfully Domestic are:

Article in Esquire Magazine Discusses Positive Discipline & Politics

Monday, January 18th, 2010

Positive Discipline Guidlines - www.positivediscipline.comThe

Esquire magazine article

posted on-line on January 14 is really is editorial piece about Barack Obama, but it’s amazing how often the author mentions the Positive Discipline, the Positive Discipline class the author attended and how he likes the results he has seen with his own child.

I’m sure it will depend on one’s political and social views as to whether Positive Discipline is seen in a positive or negative light when one reads this Esquire Magazine article. But I thought it was extremely interesting that Positive Discipline is mentioned in a political article and that the magazine was Esquire Magazine and wasn’t in the parenting genre.

If you know me, you know that I do consider Positive Discipline the best approach to teaching children about democracy, joint decision making and respect for others.

If you sign up for the Positive Discipline newsletter (<—click here), you receive a free download of the Positive Discipline Guidelines, pictured here. As you read the guidelines, you’ll notice correlations between the teachings of democracy and the Positive Discipline Guidelines.

I attended Positive Discipline Training this Summer

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

Hi parents, teachers, church staff and others who may be reading this blog.

In order to stay active as a Positive Discipline Associate/Trainer, I must attend continuing education workshops at least every other year. The Positive Discipline Association hosts an annual workshop called “Think Tank” and I attended Think Tank this past July in beautiful sunny San Diego, CA. It was my first trip to San Diego and the weather was exactly the way everyone has described it to me. Wow! Everyday it was sunny and dry with a slight breeze.

Jane Nelsen attends every Think Tank so it’s always nice to see her and hear about the wonderful new ideas she has for Positive Discipline. This year Jane was very excited about the Positive Discipline social network on-line called the “Positive Discipline Ning“, which I wrote about in a previous blog post. To me it’s been amazing to see the people on the Ning from outside of the U.S. who are excited about Positive Discipline.

Back to talking about Think Tank, I always learn great things at Think Tank – things like new activities or a new way to adjust the way I teach a concept. Here are a few of the activities I learned:

THINK TREE:

I’ll be adding “Think Tree” to the PRIDE parenting class called “Misbehavior Detectives”. This activity is about feeling the difference between being FIRM, being KIND and being KIND & FIRM at the same time.

CHAINS & WINGS:

This activity had several links to Adlerian concepts including “We do better when we feel better” and “the beauty of encouragement”. I am pretty sure I’m adding this to “Coaching from the Sidelines” PRIDE parenting class.

STEP INTO MY SHOES:

Hmm. Where to put this activity. I will have to look at the schedule to see where I can fit this in . “Step into My Shoes” would work well in both “Misbehavior Detectives” and “Coaching from the Sidelines”. I will have to think on this one. “Step into My Shoes” was a great eye opener for me.

I love going to Think Tank and getting to be the “student” instead of the teacher in parent workshops. A section of Think Tank was done in small break out sections where new trainees (Positive Discipline Associates in Training) led activities. I choose to attend a session where the activities were about teenagers since I’m mom to four teens. I had been a student for these activities years before, but it’s different now that my own kids are teens. I loved learning in the “Teen Power” and “Teen Secrets” activities.

I would love to find a place to teach a “Positive Discipline for Parents of Teens” class. If anyone has any contacts on how to make this possible, e-mail me.

The Secret Life of an American Teenager TV Show – Talking to Teens About Sex

Thursday, February 26th, 2009

My 13 year old daughter and I have a date each Monday evening at 8 o’clock. We sit together on the couch in our living room and watch the show, “The Secret Life of an American Teenager”. The show launched last summer on ABC Family and has been a big hit with viewers.

Photo by Taliesin, www.morguefile.comThe main character of the show, “The Secret Life of an American Teenager”, is Amy. Amy is 15 and pregnant. Amy had sex for the first time at band camp with school mate, Ricky. The tv show dipicts how the pregnancy affects Amy’s whole world – her sister, her parents, her friends and acquaintances at school. Molly Ringwald plays Amy’s mother on the show.

Watching the show together has given me and my daughter another way to talk about sex (in addition to other mother daughter type talks.) During the commercials, we sometimes give our opinions about the decisions made by the characters on the show. 

Below is the link to an article I wrote on Suite101.com about “The Secret Life of an American Teenager” and how the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy recommends the show as a conversation starter for parents and teens. The article has links to the ABC Family website where parents can view full episodes of the show on-line. Click on the title below and your browser will be directed to the article on the Suite101 website.

At the end of every episode of “The Secret Life of an American Teenager” the actress who plays Amy reminds viewers that teen pregnancy is 100% preventable. She also reminds teens to talk to their parents and parents to talk to teens.

Parents, I know it can be difficult to talk to teens about sex. It can be embarrassing for both parents and teens. I tell my teens that I’d rather us be embarrassed talking lots and lots about sex now than be embarrassed talking about an unplanned pregnancy later. Even though talking isn’t a cure for teen pregnancy, it sure helps teens make decisions, ask questions, stay informed and know that they can ask more questions in the future when they want to.

Did you know that the United States

has the highest teen pregnancy rates

among industrialized nations?

The Secret Life of an American Teenager:

Using a Television Show to Talk to Teens about Sex

I Traveled to the First Steps Conference for PRIDE

Friday, October 10th, 2008

Map of South Carolina, Public Use Permission GrantedJane Watowski is the director of PRIDE (Promoting Resources in Developmental Education), the agency who sponsors the parenting classes listed on my website.

PRIDE mission targets the key adults in a child’s life: parent, child care provider and pediatrician, and provides education and support about identifying developmental delays (both physical and behavioral) in children.

PRIDE’s parenting classes are offered to any parents who want support and education about behavioral issues with children.

Jane and I went to North Charleston this week to present at the very first

FIRST STEPS Conference.

Jane and I presented a break-out session about PRIDE’s educational and supportive classes for parents. Attendees of the session were led through a sampling of experiential activities used in PRIDE’s parenting classes.

At the First Steps Conference,

our speaker for dinner on Wednesday evening was the

former Governor of South Carolina,

Jim Hodges, who played a big part in founding the organization and direction of First Steps.

Our speaker for lunch on Thursday was

Mark Shriver,

Maria Shriver’s brother and Arnold’s brother-in-law!

Mark leads the organization “Save the Children

featured as a charity on “Idol Gives Back” campaign on American Idol.

Jane and I enjoyed meeting new people involved in the First Steps initiative.