Last night, PRIDE kicked off another four week session of Misbehavior Detectives: Understanding the Beliefs Behind Your Child’s Misbehavior.
Twenty-nine parents and grandparents enjoyed dinner followed by two hours of interactive learning.
Workshop attendees were introduced to the mistaken goal chart and to the idea of focusing children on what they can do instead of what they can’t do. As a group, we also brainstormed solutions and ideas to help a parent solve a behavior issue at the nightly dinner table.
Homework
Class attendees, if you’re reading this, here’s reminder about homework:
1. Read “Part 1″ of the book, “Positive Discipline A-Z”
2. Implement your plan that you shared with your partner regarding changing “Don’t ….” statements into more specific “Do . . .” statements”.
3. Notice your feelings when your child misbehaves. Stop in the moment and zone in on what specific emotions are going on for your when your child is misbehaving.
Take Aways from Class
At the end of class, I asked parents to share one thing they were “taking away” from tonight’s class. Here’s the list of answers.
-A better understanding of my child’s beliefs and feelings and more empathy for what’s going on in their head.
-The “Do vs. Don’t” activity sticks with me the most and I want to improve on giving more “do” directions than “don’t”
-I’m thinking about how this applies as my child gets older
-The perspective of the child when adults use “Don’t . . . ”
-I want to try some of the ideas from the Parent Helping Parent brainstorm about a child who wants a lot of the attention at the dinner table because we have that same issue at my house.
-I want to look at the Mistaken Goal Chart more to learn more about it.
-I like the part about understanding the beliefs behind the misbehavior.
- “A misbehaving child is a discouraged child” quote is what I want to remember.
- I’m encouraged that I don’t have to go around saying “no” all the time anymore.
- “I’m a child and I want to belong” quote is what I’m thinking about.
- “Misbehavior is goal oriented.”
-I want to focus on spending special time with each of my children.
-I want to give more specific directions to my children.
A New and Better Hand -Out
Another note to class attendees: I have new Mistaken Goal Chart hand-outs for you that look much better! I’ll give those out first thing next week.
-Kelly
PRIDE’s most popular parent workshop is back. Don’t Flip Your Lid will meet four Tuesdays near Greenville, SC. Brookwood
I attended Positive Discipline Training this Summer
Wednesday, July 29th, 2009Hi parents, teachers, church staff and others who may be reading this blog.
In order to stay active as a Positive Discipline Associate/Trainer, I must attend continuing education workshops at least every other year. The Positive Discipline Association hosts an annual workshop called “Think Tank” and I attended Think Tank this past July in beautiful sunny San Diego, CA. It was my first trip to San Diego and the weather was exactly the way everyone has described it to me. Wow! Everyday it was sunny and dry with a slight breeze.
Jane Nelsen attends every Think Tank so it’s always nice to see her and hear about the wonderful new ideas she has for Positive Discipline. This year Jane was very excited about the Positive Discipline social network on-line called the “Positive Discipline Ning“, which I wrote about in a previous blog post. To me it’s been amazing to see the people on the Ning from outside of the U.S. who are excited about Positive Discipline.
Back to talking about Think Tank, I always learn great things at Think Tank – things like new activities or a new way to adjust the way I teach a concept. Here are a few of the activities I learned:
THINK TREE:
I’ll be adding “Think Tree” to the PRIDE parenting class called “Misbehavior Detectives”. This activity is about feeling the difference between being FIRM, being KIND and being KIND & FIRM at the same time.
CHAINS & WINGS:
This activity had several links to Adlerian concepts including “We do better when we feel better” and “the beauty of encouragement”. I am pretty sure I’m adding this to “Coaching from the Sidelines” PRIDE parenting class.
STEP INTO MY SHOES:
Hmm. Where to put this activity. I will have to look at the schedule to see where I can fit this in . “Step into My Shoes” would work well in both “Misbehavior Detectives” and “Coaching from the Sidelines”. I will have to think on this one. “Step into My Shoes” was a great eye opener for me.
I love going to Think Tank and getting to be the “student” instead of the teacher in parent workshops. A section of Think Tank was done in small break out sections where new trainees (Positive Discipline Associates in Training) led activities. I choose to attend a session where the activities were about teenagers since I’m mom to four teens. I had been a student for these activities years before, but it’s different now that my own kids are teens. I loved learning in the “Teen Power” and “Teen Secrets” activities.
I would love to find a place to teach a “Positive Discipline for Parents of Teens” class. If anyone has any contacts on how to make this possible, e-mail me.
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